Friday, July 18, 2014

Jeremy's Car Accident 2004

Interesting story. The experience has changed my life.

My son Jeremy was 14 and hanging around with two older kids from the neighborhood, Dave and Brandt. They were all great kids from our current ward and they seemed to be good kids, from good families. Dave and Brandt worked at a restaurant not far from our neighborhood. 

They'd go everywhere together. Jeremy often told me that he had 3 moms -- Me, Dave's mom & Brandt's mom. All moms watched out for all the kids. All three families were active in the church and I'm sure they all had temple recommends because I knew that some of us from the neighborhood were attending on a weekly basis at the time. 

I had no doubt that all three were good friends and I didn't mind them being together, nor did I even give it a second thought about Jeremy hanging around with older kids.

I was teaching Relief Society at the time -- the Enrichment night spiritual lesson. I loved that calling! I wasn't afraid to teach and I enjoyed how things would just come together especially after much time praying and pondering over what I was to talk about. It was truly a spiritual high.

Our ward was split in July 2004 and at the time it was split we were all extended an "across the board release." It was an emotional day in church that day not just because of the ward split, but because of the release from the calling too.

10 days after the split, we had RS night. I was at church making final preparations to present to the large combined group of ladies for the last time. It was very emotional. But I knew I was prepared and wasn't really worried about my lesson. As ladies gathered it became apparent there were a LOT of sisters in the room. It was a large room and it was full. I got up to start my lesson and the most profound spiritual presence came over me and the thought came to me "everything will be all right." Although I was a little confused, I proceeded to give my lesson and I hardly remember what was said. This was about 7:20 pm.

At 8:30pm I got the call. My 10 year old daughter called my cell phone and told me of the accident. She said "The doctor at the hospital said Jeremy is hurt, but he'll be ok." I went home to find my husband was already at the scene (which was about 2 miles from home). He said DO NOT go past the scene. I had to help find one set of parents who were out for the evening with no cell phone. By a miracle we were able to find them and they met me at the hospital. Head wounds bleed -- and Jeremy had a head wound. 

It was a driver-side impact -- the car was t-boned by a large pickup truck with a "lift." and the car was totaled. The car they were in was an older Mercury Cougar. We were told had it been a smaller car we would be having 3 funerals. We believe the pickup ran a stale light -- may have been red -- and rammed right into the kids going an estimated 40-60 mph. Because we had no witnesses we could never place blame on the truck driver.

People in the hospital said our son and his friends could be the next seat belt commercial. I saw the seat belt bruises on Jeremy only that night. He refused to show them to me later. I'm sure they got worse before they got better.

The driver was flown to Salt Lake. He was one miracle after another. He was revived multiple times. The paramedic on the scene had been told by one person that he had been without oxygen for too long while they took the door off and that he should just "call" the death. The paramedic said he just had a strong feeling he should revive him -- and he did. I spoke to the paramedics at the local hospital while Jeremy was being treated and asked about the driver. One said "He's got some major trauma going on...but he'll recover."

Recover he did!  4.5 weeks after the accident he was at church and blessed the sacrament. He still had a long ways to go, but he fought hard every step of the way. It was amazing to watch his miraculous recovery.

I didn't go to sleep for a long time that first night. But I had some thoughts going through my mind but the phrase "they hold the keys to the ministering of angels" kept going through my head. I couldn't remember where I'd heard it -- and WHO held the keys to the ministering of angels. I found it a few days later in D&C 13 and was reminded that Aaronic priesthood BOYS have these keys. These were three worthy good boys. Their parents all tithing paying and temple attending families. I believe that the payment of tithing along with the temple attendance had an influence only because it was what the Lord wanted...and they were healed... just as my prompting had indicated. I also believe I had a "ministering angel" with me that night. 

I believe the accident was for a purpose. One purpose was to draw the three families together. Another was to draw the new ward together. I feel we've been very close as a ward ever since. I had other promptings prior to the accident to tell me that something was going to happen and I was grateful for the preparation I received through those promptings! I'm grateful for the knowledge of angels. I'm grateful for a loving Savior who gave us comfort at that time!

Miracles happen. Angels are real. I'm grateful for that knowledge!

(Originally written in 2007 summarizing notes from my personal journal)

Tuesday, February 7, 2012


I need to start posting again on a regular basis. Things are actually going quite well. Monday's are usually good days. Tuesdays...not so much. I really am grateful for a LOT of things. I need to keep remembering that.

Tuesday, January 24, 2012

Ups and Downs

There are a lot of emotions involved with getting laid off from work. Some days are "Up" days and other days are "down" days. I have had one of each this week, and it's only Tuesday. The keys to having an "up" are 1) Get sufficient sleep at night. 2) Keeping busy during the day 3) Taking a walk every day and 4) Sneaking a nap in every day...especially on days that I don't sleep well. (which is most.)

Today has been a really good day. I had a really good job possibility come in from a friend over the weekend. I sent my resume along and received a reply today. It would be an amazing company to work for.

I also started "services" with the outplacement agency my former company has contracted with. I'm amazed at all the things they have available! The have online webinars for resumes, interviewing and so many others. Then there are SkillSoft online classes which could keep me busy for a long time. I like to keep learning new things.

Tonight I made chocolate chip cookies. My middle son said "mom, are you sick?" Meaning, I don't make cookies very often and he was glad I'd made a treat. He happily ate some as did the daughter who said it was just what she needed. so fun.

Tomorrow's another day. Two weeks post L-day. I think I'm going to pull through.

Saturday, January 14, 2012

Answered Prayers?

You know, we had a tough financial year last year. I won't go into all the things that "helped" with that state. Recently I added a more fervent prayer asking to be "financially blessed" this upcoming year.

Then I got laid off from work this week. Hmm. Not quite what I had in mind when I asked for financial blessings.

I worked for the company for 12.5 years. Software companies usually have nice benefits. I received a nice severance package. I also received my PTO (vacation) pay out too.

So, "windfall" isn't quite what I'd call it. I'm hoping I get a job soon. If I do, the prayer is certainly answered. I have also had a LOT of job leads this week so I'm quite encouraged.

I also feel very calm knowing that somehow things will work out.

Today I'm feeling blessed with all the friends I've made the past 12+ years. They are some incredible people and I will miss them a lot.

The way computer/tech jobs go in this valley ... our paths most certainly will cross again.

Now THAT is an answered prayer.

I truly feel my prayer has been answered. Of course, it was not in the way I expected. I expect in the coming days and weeks it will become more and more apparent the blessing which will come because of this event. I fully accept what has happened and I'm looking forward to looking for that next adventure!

Friday, December 23, 2011

Christmas Eve Eve

1. I am grateful I was able to clean my room today. It looks a lot better.
2. I'm grateful my daughter wants to learn how to make Christmas Candy from me. We made toffee tonight. She likes it when it's grainy and soft. Most of the time i make it it doesn't turn out, but she likes it anyway.
3. I'm having fun listening to "The Robe" by Lloyd C. Douglas. This is is a good time of year to listen or read that story. I checked it out from the Pioneer Digital Library.
4. I'm grateful I've had a week off of work. Although, i can't say it was a take-it-easy week. I worked harder physically than I have for awhile. Now I'm very worn out which isn't a good thing. Sometimes it takes me longer to recuperate than I'd like.
5. Grateful I found some money today while cleaning...a substantial amount.
6. Grateful that Chris's heart slowed down today. He's having issues again. Also grateful for Dr. Hooker at Utah Valley who takes good care of the inmates ... and the ailing deputies too. Grateful I didn't have an ER visit today nor an ER visit co-pay.

Thursday, December 15, 2011

1. I'm thankful I slept well last night. Some nights I don't.
2. I'm thankful that I only have two more days of work this week. But yesterday was busy. I hope I can keep up today. Why is it always like that right before a break?
3. Grateful for my nice warm house, especially on a cold night.
4. I'm thankful Jessica's project for ASL seemed to go together well. Even though she wanted to put ME into the video to. :-) She was "talking" about me in ASL and then had to have me show up on the video too.
5. I'm grateful I get paid today. Sweet!

Wednesday, December 14, 2011

1. I enjoyed driving through the neighborhood last night with Jessica. We enjoyed the lights and decorations. The frosty-the-snowmen reminded me of Grisham's "Skipping Christmas." It helps to remind ourselves once in awhile that Christmas is more than trying to keep up with the neighbors.

2. I'm glad that Chris has some overtime shifts this month. I miss having him around, but the extra money in December is always welcome.

3. I'm glad the county commissioners agreed to have no layoffs. That's always nice to hear right at Christmastime.

4. I enjoyed our work party yesterday. It was a mini-reunion of sorts with those I used to work more closely with who are now working in other groups. Thanks Angel for putting it together. The lasagna completely disappeared too.

5. I'm grateful I have a dependable vehicle to drive. I know it needs some attention, but it still runs. It does like the garage better than sitting in the driveway. Jessica calls the van "Vanessa."

6. Clam Chowder was yummy for dinner last night. I'm glad Chris enjoys it.

7. I had fun listening to FM 100.3 while making dinner. It plays Christmas music all the time. I usually get annoyed with all the repeats of the same ol' Christmas songs. This station plays a wider variety.